I have been engaged for almost three years now, and much to the dismay of many of the elderly patients at work, we have no plans to have a wedding any time in the foreseeable future. I am not opposed to a massive party with kegs of Blue Moon, all the sushi you can eat, complete with Dragonforce providing the musical entertainment, but would I only host such an event as a celebration, not a conformation. My life of sin is actually pretty great, and I truly feel bad for God if he is looking down upon us in shame, unable to understand what I have over the years come to realize – a piece of paper changes nothing.
I suppose maybe there are some legal benefits to having a marriage certificate (tax breaks?). I will use an example of a situation posed to me by an ex-coworker: If I got into an accident tomorrow, and a life or death decision needed to be made, Butterfinger would not be able to make the call. So I ask, who does make the call? If it is my parents, I am sure they would consult with him, and if there were no time for that, I am pretty confident that they would not intentionally kill me… And what if no one was able to be reached? I guess the hospital staff just lets me die then, right? If that is not the most ridiculous reason to get married than I do not know what is, oh wait, I take that back, I do know something more crazy.
The prenuptial agreement, a concept that is becoming more and more popular, especially when we are talking about a union between two people involved in creating a company. Again, if this is your sole reason for getting married, you really need to reevaluate your situation. I really have a hard time going along with this one for the simple fact that, if you create something – money, art, kids, stinky socks, etc., it should belong to whomever was involved in its creation. I guess this makes too much sense to actually be put into practice, seeing as every day gold digging trophy wives across the world are cashing in on their prenuptial agreements, and making out like bank robbers. My advice (not that you asked for it) – if you do not think someone would entitle you to your fair share of whatever you created, if for some reason the relationship went sour, you probably should not be with them.
After being with someone for almost 10 years it is hard not to think that what you have built is much more than any document could ever reflect, and it seems degrading to have to validate what you share with a license to prove you are committed.
This is great and so true.
I too, am engaged indefinitely, and know that in the end, its just she and I and nothing, not hell or high water or a piece of paper or a war in Iran (sorry) is going to change that.
You and Butterfinger are the envy of the lonely masses who are unable to decide:
“Which is better? A Chocolate candy with vanilla on the inside, or a Vanilla candy with chocolate on the inside”
It SO doesn’t matter. What matters is the ability to CHOOSE, one way or the other, and to build upon that choice.
Im glad you and Butterfinger chose each other. You guys both look so good in Camoflage, so it really all works out in the end.
Hope this all makes sense.
T