A Simple Query Written in Code
Sometimes I can not help to feel completely and utterly useless, maybe even bordering on detrimental, with regards to Butterfinger’s entrepreneurial adventure. Now before you start to think I am going to drift off on a self-depreciating, woe-is-me tangent, hear me out. I am 100% ok with not being able to comprehend, scribe, or even have a Neanderthal’s awareness of back end computer applications such as coding or programming. If someone offered me a brain upload tomorrow that would allow me to have all the information necessary to write complicated queries that would subsequently transform me into a programmer of epic proportions never before witnessed by mortals, I would refuse.
A year or two ago this would not have been the case, I would have sold my soul to Satan himself if his royal hellishness could have promised me such a bounty. Why this change in mindset? I have realized there are other ways for me to be an integral part and make this venture a successful one for us. Instead of focusing my efforts on trying to catch up on Butterfinger’s years of training and experience with computers, I need to harness my talents and experiences and make them work for the startup. We can be quite complementary when we focus on our individual abilities, and this also holds true in other aspects of our relationship.
The startup, our startup relationship, and our engagement, while intertwined, are not interdependent. Butterfinger’s passion, drive, and intelligence are the reason I choose to be involved with his evolving company, not because I feel obligated to “do my share”. Seeing all the work and determination Butterfinger has put forth these past few months is what fueled me to educate myself in areas that would be beneficial to the startup such as search engine optimization and other relevant topics. At the end of the day, it really is simple, respect, encouragement, and trust.
You have hit the nail on the head. Any good relationship should be based on what you each bring individually to the table. Rarely are both people good at the same thing – in fact – that would probably get a little boring. Know that we love you and support you both.
I agree with you on refusing the devil’s promise of a bigger computer brain. We can leave the computer brains to those who can produce the best ideas for the best results. I, personally, believe I would be a terrific phonelady (just in case you are in need of one).
I’ll be seeing you in a week and a half =)
I dream in code sometimes…you don’t want that.